Confidence- Being Confident and Assertive

About Confidence

Confidence can be shown in a series of different ways. It’s the realisation of self worth. To feel like you are actually worth something and are a valuable member to your friends, family and work. It can come with age, experience and upbringing and we have all know people who just ooze confidence but how do we get it? Some information in this article may help.

Sometimes a person’s confidence is contributed to by someone close or a relationship with someone within the workplace. A manager or supervisor may make employees feel vulnerable and as a result they can lose self esteem. It is important to see that if these things are happening within a relationship that you do not become victimised. A confident person states what he or she feels yet respecting the other persons feeling also. There may also be other underlying reasons to why someone reacts with you in a certain way. Be aware and develop confident and healthy relationships.

Insecurity can also contribute to someone’s self worth. If you find you are insecure about something for example: Weight or Looks then be aware that others too have the same thoughts. You need to be aware though that sometimes we put too much power on these thoughts and when we grow older we realise they were not important. Be careful you don’t put things out of proportion.

Lack of confidence can inhibit us to build relationship with people. Usually body language such as low head, small amount of room taken up. Not smiling as much, nervous energy, high movement, and low eye contact can all demonstrate that someone may be low in confidence. Communication may be effected by low confidence and hesitation or lack of decision making can also show indecisiveness and low confidence in ones on actions.

Self Confidence can be learned though and is a great way to feel comfortable and successful in everything you do. Confident people portray the right attitude and recognise that they can express themselves and also respect other people’s feelings also. Personal Development is the best investment a person can make.

By looking to the positive in everything this can help with your self confidence. Look at things you do have and you do well. This will make you feel self worth and thus help your confidence. If you look at the things you can change it will depress you and this won’t help your confidence. Being in control means using the language internally to get the external results.

By rewarding yourself every time you have a success this will reinforce the behaviour. Give yourself credit where due and also try to push yourself even further next time. The more you get out of your comfort zone the more you will be able to do and this will help your confidence and ability.

If you have low confidence within the workplace it could be quite dangerous. Sometimes you may need to speak up or act as hesitation may cause you an injury or opportunity missed. Also acting to quickly may also do the same so a healthy self confidence will help take the right action. Share your ideas and let people know what you’re capable of. They may use you to do these things and your confidence will grow.

Your looks may be something that is bothering you. Be careful not to put too much emphasis on something you think other people look at all the time. To be honest no one’s a mind reader and you don’t know what they are thinking. A lot of the time people won’t even be noticing whatever we are worried about. Tell yourself the things you want others to say. Internal talk is important to your confident attitude. Back up also the self talk with your body language. Body Language contributes to emotion. This will help you feel powerful and confident.

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