How to tell if someone is lying to you.
These below are Visual Accessing signals. They can help identify how someone if constructing or remembering their answer.
When asked a question a “normally organized” right-handed person looks (from your viewpoint, looking at them):
Up and to the Left
Indicates: Visually Constructed Images (Vc)
If you asked someone to “Imagine a purple buffalo”, this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they “Visually Constructed” a purple buffalo in their mind.
Up and to the Right
Indicates: Visually Remembered Images (Vr)
If you asked someone to “What colour was the first house you lived in?”, this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they “Visually Remembered” the colour of their childhood home.
To the Left
Indicates: Auditory Constructed (Ac)
If you asked someone to “Try and create the highest the sound of the pitch possible in your head”, this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they “Auditory Constructed” this sound that they have never heard of.
To the Right
Indicates: Auditory Remembered (Ar)
If you asked someone to “Remember what their mother’s voice sounds like “, this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they “Auditory Remembered ” this sound.
Down and to the Left
Indicates: Feeling / Kinaesthetic (F)
If you asked someone to “Can you remember the smell of a campfire? “, this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they used recalled a smell, feeling, or taste.
Down and To the Right
Indicates: Internal Dialog (Ai)
this is the direction of someone eyes as they “talk to themselves”.
How this information is used to detect lies:
Example: Let’s say a child ask’s you for a cookie, and you ask them “well, what did your mother say?” As they reply “Mom said… yes.” they look to the left. This would indicate a made up answer as their eyes are showing a “constructed image or sound. Looking to the right would indicate a “remembered” voice or image, and thus would be telling the truth.
The way I work out which side is constructed and which side is remembered on someone is to ask them several questions that you know they are going to remember. For Example: “what did you do last weekend?” this is a question they will remember as it is in the past and not being constructed. I will ask several remembered questions just to make sure then I will ask the question I would like to know the truth to. For example: ” you know the $20 you said you paid me back? Did you really give it to me? Then if the person goes to the opposite side to remembered they will most probably be making up the answer.
Coupled with other signals as looking away, hesitation int he voice, touching the tip of the nose can all help to identify lying.
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