Controlling your Anger
Anger management is a way to control negative thoughts and emotions that have an impact and control our lives. The emotion can sometimes take control and we need to be aware that we can control it and manage the way we interact with others.
Issues come from time to time but it’s how we deal with it that’s important. Normally Anger comes from a series or uncontrollable events; sometimes it is just the one issue that is enough for us to start to show anger. Small issues such as queues, traffic, remarks, weather, etc can make us annoyed or a little angry. It’s the combination of these things that can have us emotionally out of control.
Have you ever reacted badly to a situation? Some people will react differently depending on the ability to control their anger. Those who have learnt some techniques such as self talk, meditation, and looking at the issues strategically may find easier solutions than others that are blinded by anger. Anger inhibits our solutions and free thinking. If we find that we are getting angrier and our solutions are not coming to mind we may need to look at changing our anger managerial techniques.
If we find something is bothering us we should acknowledge it and move on. Sometimes our past will affect the way we do things for the future. We should look into the underlying reason why we do things. This may help to find out why we react in a certain way.
Your self talk (internal talk) may be making things worse. Be aware of your conversation internally as this may be adding wood to the fire. If you take control of your thinking then your actions will be ones that have been controlled. First comes thinking, then comes action then comes the result of your actions.
Breathing techniques can help introduce oxygen into the blood. This will help you think clearer and also calm down. Try some breathing techniques to help introduce a timely and relaxing control trick.
A part of being in control is acting wisely. This involves thinking about what you would like to say before saying it as you may find that a quick response is not always the best result. Don’t let the other person get you to react the way they want you to. Be in control and don’t be afraid of confrontations.
Don’t let anger control your career either. Your workplace is one where you need to react in a dignified and professional manner. Managers know the importance of keeping the look and not losing the plot when there are stressful situations about. No one likes a leader that’s out of control.
Organise your desk and be creative with your time management. This will help you increase your freedom and your stress at work will feel less restrictive. Your workload and tasks at work may be adding to your stress. Delegate tasks to people and realise that you just can’t do everything. Your health is important and your job is second. So be in control and know when enough is enough.
Have you ever tried an anger management class? There are hundreds of programs out there to help you find the answer or the technique to control your anger. Many different techniques may work with different people, so read books, join classes, take a look at health products too that may help reduce your stress levels and help you be in control.
Your doctor could also help identify if there is more than meets the eye. Sometimes your stress and anger levels could be from an underlying medical condition or illness. If you find these techniques are still not working. Please see your doctor for more support. He/She may even know some great programs out there.
See our anger management training for staff here.