Expressing yourself may be hard at times, and anger management is all about a controlled way of expressing yourself. Emotions can take control and Anger is one we need to be aware of. It can be hurtful or even destructive and can inhibit or prevent us from making relationships. Knowing this it can have an impact on our lives.
The emotion anger can be a tricky one as sometimes comes from a reaction of some sort. Normally when something is out of control we react and we may find our emotion creeping up considerably. Smaller issues can sometimes add to the emotion bit by bit until we find ourselves in a totally uncontrollable state. Or sometimes one large value or issues comes to mind and the impact of it can make us react inappropriate.
Some people are affected by anger more than others. It’s not the issue that changes but normally the way the person reacts to it. Some people lash out; others will look at it constructively. Depending on your control and your ability to use self talk, you could look at things quite calmly. Others that are inexperienced may react differently. If we find ourselves out of control we may need to look at further development.
The first step to anger management is realising we have an issue to deal with. Sometimes there may be underlying reasons for our actions and we should look into previous experiences or our past for further information on why we react the way we do.
Another step to help with anger management is to realise the thinking we have may be affecting the way we act. Don’t let your self talk make you angry and hype you up to do something uncontrollable. You are the only one that can make you feel the way you do. So be aware and take steps to minimize the impact.
A lot of people like mediation and breathing exercises also to help calm down. If you find you need to count to ten and breathe between each then this may be a tip for you. It can help you relax and stay calm also. With time on your hands you won’t act to quick and be able to think clearer.
Some people will try to get you to react also and you need to be aware that you can be in control when it comes to confrontations. Think about what you are going to say before you say it as quick speech can be a sure way to a fight. Don’t take things personally as well as this may add to your anger. Be in control and don’t let the other person get the reaction they want.
Managers also realise that by reacting and losing their tempers it may cost them their job or relationships with people on the job. It is important to be in control at your workplaces as reacting out of character has lead to many loosing not only their tempers.
If you find your workload or stress at work adding to your anger you should do something about it before it gets out of control. Discussing issues with Managers and staff may help with delegation and task sharing. Don’t take on an unrealistic workload and organise your desk and time correctly. These small things can take away a large part of the emotion.
There are a range of programs and books available also to help learn more about anger management and can help assist you with your anger management program. Many courses will assist you in becoming more aware and more effective in dealing with anger management issues. Assertiveness and behaviour training can also assist.
If you find these techniques or tricks are still not helping you may need to seek further advice from a GP or local doctor. As stated before there may be underlying issues for the stress levels and anger… Possibly a Fatty Liver, Mental Health or other contributing factors. Seek further advice if needed.
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